Closer or Further

This is written in February, 2006, after my South East Asia trip and the movie 'Closer'. Recently I found it matching to friends' blogging about 'the distance of love'.

For most of the young people in this modern world, no matter in the east or the west, broken heart seems very common. I sometimes wonder how strong our hearts are that we can bear the breaking and mending, breaking and mending... again and again.

Obviously, the breaking point made the hearts strong and the hope of being mended keep us going forward. So when the feelings of 'love' come, shall we just go for it? Especially if it seems not a harm to any others.

It is not easy to heal a heart once it's broken. The healing process takes lots of effort. People says, God can do anything. Yes, God will heal us. He is able . But, does He want us to take the harm at the first place??

Thinking of the real world, we all grow and learn in a changing world. Our ability of knowing ourselves and appreciating others is changing according to our education level, socail circle, living evironment and many other things. It seems impossible to overcome all our own feelings to reach to the level to 'real love' for someone.

The cashier in Tesco said '我爱你' the other day because he thought it's good to greet someone in this way.

A Christian guy said that he understands 'I love you' as 'I appreciate you'.

Someone said two can be together until they do not 'love' any more.

It just seems hopeless to tell what is the best understanding and what to do. Should you believe? Should you move on? Should you quit? Should you forget?

Here are some wise answers.

'There's a moment, there's always a moment, "I can do this, I can give in to this, or I can resist it." And I don't know when your moment was, but I bet you there was one. '-----Alice in Closer.

Do something because that's the right thing to do, not because you feel good.--- sister Sandra

.....Above all this, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life....--Proverbs 4:23