we grow out of each other?

What to do when we grow out of each other? Should I ask you to move on, or should I change myself to fit you as a friend?

What to do when we (scaringly) grow out of a church or a group of people? Should we move on? Or should we ask the whole congregation to change??

I think we need to be very careful when we realise our difference, maybe we shall never say ' I grow out of you and you should change....'